Not all bio-family contacts are negative. Sometimes a visit works really well for the children... and definitely in the "Celebrations" category, in life and in the book.
Wow! What a difference it makes when the family visit has gone well. First, everyone showed up. Then they actually played together and talked with each other. No one shouted. No one got angry. No one pushed the limits. It may have felt a little strained to me. It always seems so artificial and a little forced what with all the required setting and structure. But I don't think the kids really noticed that. They seemed to be really comfortable. I hope it was real. I hope they weren't just trying to make their world more normal. As if visiting there parent/s for an hour at a time with people supervising and watching every move is normal. Grant these children a sense of normalcy even if just for these short stretches. Grant them the joy and the pleasure. Let them truly enjoy these times together. Thank you.
Excerpted from "The Caring Heart Speaks: Meditations for foster, kinship, and adoptive parents" by Gail Underwood Parker