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Thursday, October 14, 2010

Parenting Tips: Preparing for Parent Teacher Conferences

Most school have an opportunity during the fall for parents to meet with their child's teacher to get progress information. Too often they can be simple reviews of paperwork, grades, and testing you have already seen.  As a former teacher, I prepared ahead for each child's conference deciding what I wanted to share and what I wanted to ask. If you want more out of a parent-teacher conference you need to do your homework and also be prepared.  Here are 5 idea starters.

1. What can you share?
Give your teacher the home perspective. Is your child stressed or happy about school? Is there anything happening to him adding stress that may impact the school? Does she have specific anxieties or concerns the teacher needs to know?

2. How is homework going?
Is homework a battle or a breeze? About how long does it take him to do his homework each night?  Does she work independently or need a lot of help?  


3. Bring specific questions.
"How is she doing?" is less helpful than "What area does he need to work on?" "Who does he usually buddy up with for team projects?" instead of "Is she getting along okay?" Be sure to ask the teacher's minimum and maximum time expected on homework per night [and what you should do if it takes longer].These can help you be more effective helping your child with both studying and social concerns.

4. Be willing to tackle tough stuff.
If your child has shared anything that concerns you, bring it up to the teacher!  Maybe he has reported other kids cheating? Maybe she has talked about bullies at recess?  Maybe the bus driver seems mean to your child? Does the child think the teacher is fair? Why or Why not? The parent conference is a good opportunity to bring those concerns to the school's attention.

5. Make a list.
Having a list of key things you want to cover or questions you want answered is one of the best ways to be sure you don't get sidetracked during the conference.  Most conferences are limited to around 20 minutes. The teacher will have information to share, so take the time to write down your priorities and bring them!

P.S. A compliment is always welcome if deserved! More tips on conferences next Monday [School Bell section].

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2 comments:

  1. Great article, thanks for the info!

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  2. Thanks JD! How did you find me? I was excited to see someone actually post a comment.... most often people seem to email me instead. Thanks for visiting my blog... Do you have one?
    Gail

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