Focus on Fostering: Unhappy Halloween

Happy Halloween is anything but for many foster children.  They become increasingly anxious as the holiday approaches.  Fearful of violence, frightened of blood, still suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, Halloween is a minefield of risk for them emotionally.
If this is an issue for any of your children, be sure to alert their school teachers, especially if the child is older and teachers might include scary stories or spooky activities.  Talk to your child about the holiday and what they might expect.  If it is a severe issue, make a plan that will give your child a way to avoid Halloween parties, etc. while still saving face socially.  They need an out until they are able to cope with the frightening aspects of Halloween.

If your child has NOT shown any problems, but is new to your home, keep in mind that Halloween may present problems, increase fears, or spark unhappy memories. Be alert to moodiness, changes in behavior, etc.  Keep the child/ren involved in helping you prepare for the holiday in ways that are non-threatening and can normalize the holiday. Be flexible. Give them space, support, and understanding.  Remember the book I recommended in my post on October 5th? Review the W.I.S.E. way they can handle reactions or questions from their friends.  Forewarned is forearmed.  Be prepared and you are more likely to enable them to have a real "Happy Halloween."

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