Do you have an adolescent who is mortified when you say “I love you” in front of their friends? Don’t stop giving them the messages of love and connection. Instead come up with a “secret” family code that means “I love you.” You can still tell them you love them, and they can return the affection without embarrassment, and with the special touch of bonding through a secret code.
In our family we used the deaf “I love you” finger sign longer before it became widely recognized in the hearing world. Later we would call out “RILY” to stand for “Remember, I love you!”
One day one of my children discovered that when you say “elephant shoes” your lips make the same moves as in saying “I love you.” Bingo a new secret code was born…. Most strangers, hearing us say, “Don’t forget elephant shoes!” to a departing loved one are just left to wonder where they are going, and what they do!
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