School ends for my kiddos this week. Some of their friends are moving away. Soon they will meet, make new camp friends, and say goodbye to them. I am reminded of this meditation. I hope it helps some of you.
Learning to Say Goodbye [when it isn't forever]
Help him say goodbye. He needs to learn that all goodbyes are not forever. That sometimes a goodbye is a sad moment for a happy reason. You say goodbye to one teacher because you are going to the next grade. You say goodbye to another because she is getting married and moving to another school. You say goodbye to a friend who is heading off to college. This child lives with so many goodbyes to his family. A family that is broken. And so, goodbyes for him bring nothing but memories of sadness and loss Help him learn to say goodbye. Help him learn ways to stay in touch when it is reasonable and good. Help him live with the loss when staying in touch is not realistic. Help him see the celebrations hidden within some goodbyes. Help him separate the goodbye that forever changed his life from the ordinary everyday goodbyes of daily life and of growing up. Help him learn to say goodbye.
Excerpted from "The Caring Heart Speaks: Meditations for foster, kinship, and adoptive parents" by Gail Underwood Parker Artwork by Anna Parker David from the book cover.