I try to start way ahead to let them know it is coming. The dates are on the family calendar and I let it drop into conversations. But it always includes that I will miss them while I am gone and that I am not gone for very long. We plan together for the time I am gone.
I have two guidelines:
1- Because when I go I am usually very busy [at a conference or doing research] I do not promise to call at a certain time each day or to send them an email everyday. I sometimes do call or email, but I am very careful not to promise something that might not be possible or realistic.
2- I plan small things that will come at unexpected times and that are not expensive.
Here are three of the tricks we've use to make the preparation and transition in and out of the time away a bit smoother:
--Photos: I put a framed pictures of me by their beds, sometimes next to a book they have chosen for the sitter to read.
--Notes: I tuck little pictures or notes or both in "hiding" places for them to find while I am gone. [Under their pillow, in a sneaker, inside the freezer on the ice cream container!, in their jacket pocket, etc.]
--Surprises: I make an envelope-a-day for them to open from me. Inside is some small trinket [stickers, pack of gum, wrapped life saver,etc.] Also inside may be a privilege or a task or just a note.
I don't do all three, but I do something. Something they can look forward to and enjoy while I am away.
What are your favorite tricks? Share!
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